Some people are 50, single and loving it! They have no
yearnings to be one half of a couple and are merrily going
about their lives and enjoying every single minute of it.
Others are 50 and single and are not loving it.
You may be in either category, but if you are in the latter
Ė if you are still 50 and you are looking for love, there
are many reasons why you may not have found the one yet. For
some people, life circumstances are just not conducive to
being in a relationship and to others; having looked for a
while, but having not yet found their life partner.
So here are 5 reasons that might be hindering your search
for your perfect match:
1. We build walls around our heart: Most of us have been
hurt somewhere in our past and a natural consequence of this
is to build up barriers or walls, so that it doesnít happen
again. The problem is that if these walls are too high and
too wide, we donít allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough
to let someone else into our heart.
2. A fear of being loved: Most people would deny this, but
you might be surprised how many people feel that they are
unlovable. This can be caused by rejections early in life
and so you feel anxious about being loved, as allowing
yourself to be loved has previously led to you feeling
rejected and hurt.
3. Unrealistic expectations: Maybe you are waiting for your
knight in shining armor to rescue you or for the perfect
woman, but whatever the reason, you have set the bar too
high. There are lots of single men and women who could be
highly compatible with you, but you donít give them a chance
because they donít fulfill every item on your Ďideal partner
4. We isolate ourselves: You wonít meet anyone in front of
the TV, you need to be out and about living your life and
meeting new people and having new experiences. When you are
over 50's single and mature person, it is so easy to
stay at home where you are comfortable and not put any
effort into dating.
5. Low self-esteem: There are many reasons for low
self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence, but the end
result is that you long to be in a loving relationship, but
you feel that no-one will love you. People who lack
self-confidence tend to send out negative signals to people
which prevents them from approaching you and ultimately
reinforces your feelings of loneliness and low self-esteem.
Seeking a new partner isnít always easy, but staying open to
new experiences and new people is important. Sometimes
professional counseling can help, but always remember that
whilst while none of us is ever going to be perfect, there
is someone who is perfect for you and they are waiting to
meet you right now.
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